In psychic healing classes, there are three possible positions for the students to be in: the healer, the person receiving healing (client) or the person observing the healing (observer). We learn in each position. Students learn fairly quickly that the observers position can be one of the most valuable and challenging positions to be in.
When giving healing, we are learning by doing. We are discovering our own unique approach to healing, and we are exploring methods presented by the teacher or role-modelled by other students. We are learning how to communicate with spirit, the client, the client’s energy field and our own energy field, using psychic ability to perceive and intend.
When receiving healing, we are experiencing what it feels like to be the client. We might discover that cold hands are unpleasant or that the third eye can be very sensitive. While receiving, we are honing our psychic ability. We might ‘see’ healing energy flowing from the healers hands into our heart chakra or we might ‘feel’ the energy flow down our legs and into the earth when someone helps our energy field ground itself.
When observing healing, we are likewise honing our psychic ability to perceive. As we watch the healer, we might ‘see’ the ball of light the healer is creating, or the scene they are describing. We might ‘hear’ the sound of the blockage being removed or feel the disturbed energy of the client within our own body.
As the observer, we are tuning in and paying attention to both the healer and the client. As the observer, we are providing a unique service to both the client and the healer, because we are on the outside looking in. By providing feedback afterwards, we help both of them see themselves and the healing from a new perspective.
We might be able to validate something for the healer by saying ‘Yes I felt that too!’, or empathise with the client in a way that the healer could not. We might be able to tell the healer what their spirit guide looked like, or we might be able to fill in a missing piece of the puzzle that neither the healer or client could identify.
We are also empowering the healing by doing something I call ‘witnessing’. When we watch a healer untangle a knot in a clients energy field, we are empowering this act because we are witnessing it, and by witnessing it, lending energy to the healers intention. When a healer says ‘I am channelling golden sparkles into the client’s outer aura’, the observer must visualise or imagine this image in order to comprehend what the healer has said. Energy flows where attention goes, so having three people visualising the same image (healer, client and observer), empowers this image.
The most vital aspect of the observers position is to stay detached or objective. In the observers position we are walking a fine line between stayed tuned in and not getting pulled in. We want to stay aware of what is happening on the healing table without losing ourselves in the client’s experience. We can allow ourselves empathic resonance, but not to the extent that we become disturbed or unbalanced.
We must stay centred and this can be challenging! So often, our fingers twitch. We want to get in there and do the healing ourselves. We want to help. We’re sure the healer has missed something and it’s all we can do to stay seated and not leap up and intervene! Or the client is going into intense emotion and we’re struggling not to drown in it ourselves. Going into uncontrolled energetic resonance with a disturbed state isn’t fun and it isn’t helpful.
Over and over again in the observers position, we need to come up for air by breaking eye contact with the healing process and rediscovering our centre. Who would have ever thought that observing could be so intense! If breaking eye contact doesn’t work, we need to step outside the room and observe from a greater distance. If this doesn’t work, we need to go outside and reconnect with nature. Our self-care skills must be brought in to play: disconnecting, clearing, centring, grounding and setting boundaries.
The urge to take on the client’s emotion or step in and take over the healing must be wrestled back into submission. We can let go. We can surrender and trust. We don’t need to fix, save, or rescue anyone. We can be at peace and just let the process unfold in it’s own perfect way, even if that ‘way’ seems messy or painful to us. We can remember to breathe and find our centre, rather than feeding the clients state or disrespecting the healers personal space.
These skills can be practised in the healing room from the observers position and then applied in our everyday lives. We can look away when a friend’s story about their mother is getting so intense and repetitious you feel like you are drowning in it. The birds are still singing, the sun is still shining. We can smile inside and remember to breathe, rather than feeding our friends state by matching his mood.
We can let go and have faith when a loved one is going through a crisis without feeling as though we need to step in and rescue them from themselves. We can trust that their journey, however crazy or scary it might seem from our perspective, is the perfect journey for them. Instead or rushing to catch them every time they fall, we can let them fall, or let someone catch them, because it isn’t up to us to hold someone else’s world together for them.
By taking over because we want to be helpful, we often rob people of perfectly good opportunities to heal and grow. The other person might stumble and fall, but in doing so, they learn not to put their foot in that pothole ever again. Hopefully. Sometimes we need to stumble and fall a few times before we learn to avoid potholes. But if someone always rescues us from the consequences of our own actions, we never learn to avoid potholes- there’s no need to bother when someone else is always there to catch you before you fall.
So whether you are living life or observing a healing, let go. Let both the client and the healer go. Have faith in the client. Have faith in the healer. Believe in them. Let them be where they are at and simply honour their journey by observing it and reflecting it back to them so they can see themselves from another perspective, an outside perspective. This is the greatest gift you can offer.
Omanisa is a naturopath, spiritual counsellor and healer who specialises in reading and healing the aura. To find out more about Omanisa and her work, check out her website.