Self-Acceptance Green

I was doing a healing yesterday, with a client. While working through her colours, I discovered a frequency I hadn’t seen before. With new colours, the easiest way to describe them is to reference existing colours. This new colour was half Abundance Green, and half Performance Green, with some Patience Green thrown in.

Abundance Green is a shimmering luminous green, like the green on a butterfly wings or a kingfisher feathers.

Performance Green is darker in shade; a flat, goudy bright green like flashes of glitter, sequins and stage glamour.

Patience Green is a grey-tinged, denim textured pale teal.

When I overlaid these frequencies and listened to the client’s feild, I felt and heard ‘self-acceptance’. I will need to feel/see/hear this colour a little more (at least another two times) before I reallt begin to know it. In the meantime, I’m going to open to the flow and see what comes through about this colour. This will be a spontaneous thinking-aloud reasoning process, blended with brainstorming and free-association, so please forgive me if it seems disjointed.


Acceptance Green helps you find the beautiful place between the authentic ‘what-you-see-is-what-you-get’ of Abundance Green, and the loud showiness of Perfomance Green. In this space, this point of balance, we can be genuine and relaxed, able to be our true selves, whilst at the same time enjoying the pure pleasure of exploring a role, a voice or a story. Sitting behind all of this, back-stage, is Authenticity Green.

In fact, I suspect Acceptance Green might actually be a variation, sub-shade or new facet of Authenticity Green.

When I discern the difference, I can feel/see that Authenticity Green is a transitionary or blossoming colour; it’s one of those colours that tends to appear temporarily, like Courage Orange. It appears when we are transitioning from a toxic or deprived envrionment into one in which nourishes us, and helps us flourish. It appears when we are very first beginning to blossom into our higher potentials.

Acceptance Green has more quiet and stillness. This is time stretched and full, a place of arrival from which we never leave, even if there are more journeys to be had; a state of attainment from which we cannot fade.

Acceptance Green is a deep and quiet knowing of our own self-worth, a flexible firmness which cannot be shaken. When others project their ideas about who we are onto us,  we might change shape in their eyes, but never in our own. We look into the vision they paint for us and we deeply accept it without ever making it ours.

Where does Patience Green fit into all of this? I think it provides the mood- this colour is probably the closest we come to a feeling of acceptance. There is never any hurry with this colour because what will be will be. It also provides a degree of self-observation via the grey content, which enhances contemplation and introspection.

I don’t think this colour is just about self- acceptance, it can represent acceptance in general. Seen in this light, the acceptance colour is much like Surrender Purple, a plummy grey-pink purple. But in comparison to Surrender, Acceptance is definitely more about self-acceptance and Surrender is more about acceptance of circumstances.

A similar colour is Harmony Purple, a soft lilac, pastel pink-purple. Harmony is very much about acceptance, a deep coming-to-peace-with. Now I need to ask: How is Self-Acceptance Green different from Harmony Purple? Harmony is softer and it’s more about tolerance of self and others; a movement away from judgement towards compassion. By comparison, Self-Acceptance has a more empowered feeling; a feeling of not needing to have acceptance from others in order to accept and approve of oneself.

This puts me in mind of my ‘Cinderella Syndrome’, which the Acceptance colour would be therapeutic for. I coined this phrase a few years ago when working through some of my own self-woth issues and simultaneously watching clients do the same. With so many models to observe, I began to see a pattern that made me think of the Cinderella story. It’s easiest for me to spot in people when they talk and express themselves in a very particular way. I do find it much harder to see in myself, so it’s useful having clients reflect me back to myself. We all do this kind of thing (an act of service!) for each other.

I can’t tell you exactly what words they use, because it’s different in every client, but the feeling-tone, the underlying story and my body-based response is the same each time. Observing the Cinderella syndrome gives me a feeling of wonder and shock, a strange fascination, disgust and sadness that another person might see themselves so lowly in comparison to others, without even being aware they do so. They act like Cinderella around the nasty stepsisters in their lives, letting other peoples demands come before their own well-being. These people can become so adept at tuning out their own needs and enslaving themselves to others, they entirely forget they have any rights.

They often hang their heads when they talk or they avoid eye-contact. Many of them think their self-esteem is in intact but when you really listen to them, it can be shocking what they tolerate from others without complaint. Some of them don’t seem to realise they are getting a raw deal. Others know they are placing someone else’s rights ahead of their own but they don’t know how to stop doing or allowing this. Many of them are intimidated by the ugly stepsisters (bully’s) in their lives. Ugly stepsisters don’t always mean to be horrible and selfish. In comparison to evil stepmothers, they are quite petty and inconsequential. Their nastiness arises purely from self-absoption and a strong sense of entitlement that the Cinderellas of the world could afford to learn from.

There is a difference between service and slavery.