I am not a medium. Or a spiritualist.

I do not do mediumship or spiritualism.

Does this mean I don’t talk to or work with loved ones who have crossed over?

“There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio,
Than are dreamt of in your philosophy.”
– Hamlet (1.5.167-8), Hamlet to Horatio

I am a spiritual counsellor and healer. I am spirit-trained. My spirit guides have guided me with care. They have not wanted me to be overly influenced by existing systems or schools of thought.

Systems, such as those established by the mediumship and spiritualist world, can be very helpful, but they can also be limiting. Whenever you have a system, you will try to make everything adhere to that system, and you won’t be able to perceive anything that isn’t in alignment with that system. I’m always asking my psychic students to be careful when they consider adopting ‘rules’ or mindsets other healers have established as ‘The Way to Do Things’. If you rigidly decide the aura has 65 chakras, and 65 chakras only, you will never be able to perceive anything else. You will be blind to any other possibility. We need to let spirit and energy be what it is, instead of insisting that everything adhere to our nice neat little rules all the time. We need to be more flexible, more allowing, more open. More intuitive. We need to listen more and dictate less.

We also need to honour our own way of doing things. Just because a medium somewhere once upon a time in history came up with a very useful approach to connecting with loved ones does not mean that everyone else, forever, from that point forth, has to do it the same way. The spiritualist model is the model that has informed and shaped modern mediumship practises and it is very effective. But it really is only one way of doing things. It isn’t THE Way.

I can guarantee you that your ‘communicating with loved one’s in spirit’ concepts have been heavily shaped and informed by spiritualist method, because this has been our history as a culture. We have been conditioned to think the spiritualist model is the only valid way to connect with loved ones who have crossed over and I’m here to tell you it isn’t.

My spirit guides tell me they were a little dismayed when they watched me try to squeeze myself into this model for a few years. They wanted to tell me ‘This isn’t your way, Om’. But I wasn’t listening. I couldn’t hear them because I was so fixated on doing things ‘properly’, the way ‘everyone else’ does it. They stood back patiently and waited, because they knew I had to work it out for myself.

Finally, finally…. I came to my senses and stopped trying to push the river. I let go and surrendered. Since then, my work with loved ones in spirit has been deeply rewarding, effective, satisfying….and easy.

I am not a medium.

I am a spiritual counsellor and healer and my conversations with people’s loved ones in spirit happens organically, naturally, effortlessly….. during the counselling and healing process. This process happens the way it wants to happen, regardless of my own or other people’s expectations or demands. It flows perfectly when we all get out of the way and let it be what it is, instead of what we think it should be. Left to it’s own devices, this beautiful process unfolds softly and easily from inside me like a flower greeting the sun. If I do not honour the way it wants to work, it curls up and shuts down.

During consultations, clients sometimes talk about their loved ones in spirit. Quite often, while they are speaking, I become aware of the loved one they are speaking about, standing with them. As the client speaks, I notice the reactions of this loved one in spirit. When the client has finished speaking, I ask them if they believe in life after death. If they do not, I do not say anything about what I have just witnessed. Instead, I use the information I have gathered to shape and guide the therapeutic process. I find other ways to facilitate the healing their loved ones in spirit so deeply want them to have.

If the client believes in life after death, I talk to them about what I have just witnessed. There are often tears and laughter, as we talk. If I am working with this client on an on-going basis, I start to encourage them to talk with their loved ones in spirit. We work together- the client, myself and spirit- to improve the clients relationship with spirit.

This is my way of doing things. As you can see, it’s not a spiritualist approach. I don’t dazzle people with information about how a person died or what their name is.

So how do people know the information I’m giving them is legitimate?

Because it sounds exactly like what their loved one would say. It feels right. The personality of their loved one shines though loud and clear. There is no doubt.

All I can do is be me. I am good with relationships, personalities, emotions and healing. That is who I am. When I get on with being me, everything falls perfectly into place.