Relationships and happiness

I just got through two paragraphs, reading a blog about relationships, and suddenly realised my husband and I have been together for almost 27 years. “Why are we so happy with each other, so happy together?” my husband asked me earlier today. I shrugged. “We’ve worked on it. Most people don’t.” I sincerely believe relationships are an art that needs to be practised, a skill-set that can be developed, like anything else in the world.

That might not sound incredibly romantic, but if grounded pragmatism bores you I can broaden the scope and tell you that I also believe my husband and I dreamed each other into being, beginning in childhood. We already ‘knew’ each other before we met. We were brought together by a star that has kept us orientated on one another, so we don’t lose out bearings. But that stuff is our private magic, the sacred stories we share in the right moment at the right time, around a campfire with friends.

Let me tell you instead about the practical magic I feel can be applied to any relationship to help it bloom and flourish, and seeing as most of what I’ve learned I’ve learned from my husband, I’d better check in with him and convey to you what he thinks are the secrets behind a good relationship. But he’s watching the football now, so I’ll let him soak up that joy while I immerse myself in the bliss of the written word and I’ll ask him when he comes to tell me about the game.

My husband and I have learned that you have to meet each other half way. You aren’t in a relationship if you aren’t willing to do this, you are just pretending. Relationships are about compromise and negotiation, about being prepared to give a bit because you love the other person and what you have together. Half way. That means don’t be a stubborn pain the neck, and or let the other person act like a spoiled brat. Love doesn’t do that. Love cares about itself AND the other person.

Find a middle ground, or take turns. It really is that simple. You aren’t right all the time. Neither are you wrong all the time. You can’t have what you want all the time, but neither should you constantly sacrifice your needs like some heroic martyr. The beautiful thing is, that when two people love each other, beyond speaking up to express your needs and feelings (with kindness and respect), you don’t usually have to argue your position much or fight for what you need, because the one who loves you will hear you and meet you half way, at the very least, just as you will do for them.

Good relationships are about kindness. My husband and I don’t always agree, but we have learned to argue (debate) with kindness, and with respect for one another. We don’t tear each other to shreds, but we do express hurt, disappointment, frustration and so on. You can do all of that without fighting dirty. Don’t do or say what you will regret later. Don’t damage the relationship, because arguments are just arguments. They pass.

And it helps to have a wee bit of a sense of humour. It truly can be hilarious when you realise you’ve heard it all before (your own carry on) and your partner is finding clever, light-hearted ways to point this out to you.

My husband finished the game. I just asked him what the secrets to a good relationship are. “Having fun together. I could give you an entire list. Sharing experiences together. Having children together. Travel…. I think honestly is important. That means being able to be yourself and letting each other be who you are. You find you mould each other into perfection anyway, in the end.”

Anyway, that’s his wisdom for now, and mine, because now we’ve got some great conversations to have together.

 

Blessings!

 

 

 

 

The Heart Chakra – Green

IMG_1496This weeks feature chakra in my clinic is the Heart Chakra. There are two colours frequently associated with the Heart Chakra: Green and Pink. This week, we will be exploring the Green ray or aura frequency. You can learn more about the aura and different aura colours here.

In my Aura Colour system, I have many different shades of green, ranging from pale greens to dark greens, from yellow-greens to blue-greens, from olive greens to eucalypt greens.

My spirit guides began teaching me how to read the aura in the mid 1990’s after attending a Reiki course. In 1998 I began providing clients with aura sketches and readings and my chalk box eventually expanded to include over 100 different aura colours.

Years later, I used these chalks to create the Aura Cards I now use as my primary healing and reading method in clinic.

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heart chakra dJoin my facebook business page Omanisa Ross ND to find out which Aura Colour is being featured as my Aura Card of the week in the clinic, with it’s unique message of wisdom and a healing mantra.

Keep your eyes open for this post, to discover how you can have your own personalised Aura e-Card sent out to you every week, starting with one of my many Green Aura Cards…

What shade of Green is your Heart Chakra radiating at this time? What shape is your heart chakra in?

Heart Chakra Blessings!

Love Om xx

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BLOGS

Reflecting on Sketching the Aura

My Rainbow Journey

Reading colours under the arms

About the Aura Cards

Possibilities and synchronicity….

fullsizerenderAnother thoroughly enjoyable work week is wrapping up. In a way, it all started on Monday, the public holiday, with a scrumptious Skype catch up with my Aunty Kay. Kay and I are both passionate about learning, growing and creating tools that help others, and we spent some of our conversation finding ways to help each other take another step deeper into our passion. Kay has an amazing card set she made called the ‘Playground of Possibilities’ which she used to help me, and I used my Aura Cards to help her. Funnily enough, our questions were essentially about how to take our card sets to the next level. PoPcards 006e

The card Kay pulled for me from her deck was “What would be possible for me if I did it, even if I felt afraid?” which I thought was hilariously apt, given I’d just the week prior running a couple of workshops on “Finding Courage” and was busily recording courage-based meditation resources for my students and clients. The Universe always arranges for us to be in the right place at the right time, huh? Here is a link to a blog that shows you how Courage and Synchronicity appear to me visually when I am reading the aura (keeping in mind the colours for me are multi-dimensional, with movement, layers, sparkle, etc… and that’s just on the visual level!).

This question was really helpful for me because it helped me to realise that my feeling of overwhelm in regards to the smorgasbord of creative projects I have in front of me was a form of fear. I was afraid I didn’t know where to start, afraid that I was going to drown, somehow, in all the noise and chaos of possibilities and end up treading water without swimming towards any definable outcome. Talking with Kay I made a few decisions. First was that I needed to create some vision-boards; I needed to map out the various projects in a visual way so I could see them clearly and see the steps that needed to be taken. My original question had been ‘where do I start?’ and the answer that came to me was that I just need to have all the projects laid out in front of me with their sequential steps mapped out so I can float between them. I’m always at my best when I allow my inner child to take the lead, and she LOVES floating between projects. As soon as I get bored or tired, I change gears and it keeps me fresh and inspired.

I had plenty of clients and personal business to take care of on Tuesday and Wednesday so I didn’t get a chance to do my mapping until yesterday and oh my goddess did I have fun doing it! I went through some recent diaries I had handy and pulled out all the pages that were covered in creative-ideas brainstorming, and I collected all the loose leaf pages covered in the same that were floating about, and proceeded to wrestle them into line. The night before, during one of the many soul-quenching conversations I can never seem to get enough of with my husband of 27 years, we realised that an older vision we’d had for the colour books would fit perfectly with some of my more recent ideas. Light-bulbs were exploding in my mind. My husband, bless him, quickly grabbed paper and pen and waited patiently while it all poured out of me.

It’s hard to describe, but I suddenly realised I’d been thinking about it all wrong. It felt like my brain was now looking at the puzzle from a horizontal, rather than a vertical perspective. Instead of columns of separate projects, I was now seeing the interconnected links between them… I was seeing rows that connected the columns together. So now I have the beginnings of a master plan!

Aside from creative-project planning, my week with clients has been a particularly rewarding one. It makes me so happy when I see a client for their one-month follow up and they tell me their anxiety evaporated after our last session. It’s also lovely to see clients I haven’t seen for a few years, seamlessly picking up where we left off, as though no time has passed. I’ve seen quite a few children and teenagers this week, and it has struck me again, how important personal space is for our young ones. They are often overloaded with stimuli from school and then again at home with noisy siblings and shared bedrooms. No wonder they have trouble winding down, finding stillness and sleeping. A lack of personal space is particularly stressful for introverts. As an introvert myself, I very much understand this need for privacy and time out.

Aura SketchI really enjoyed doing an aura sketch on site for a client. Two things about the sketching amaze me. First is that I get to the end of my 60-90 minute long speech and ask “Are there any questions you might have had that the sketch didn’t answer for you?” 98% of people say no! How incredible is that?! The second thing that amazes me is that even though I bumped the on-site price up to $190.00, and am offering a Skype version for $150 and an emailed version for $120, most clients are still opting for the on site version. It wasn’t until I had my back injury and was taken out of action for a while that I realised just how much energy it requires to do my thing, as a psychic. And of all the services I offer, the aura sketching is the most energy intensive. It took a long time before I was able to offer this service again and this has helped me see that I was undercharging. For similar reasons, I’ve bumped the Spirit Guide Sketch up to $200 and can only do one of these per month. Have you seen the spirit guide sketches? Here’s one of my favourites:

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STORY-TELLING, POETRY & CREATIVE PROJECTS

I have some clients who have recently begun working with me weekly, because they are going through difficult times and really need the support, or they are highly committed to their personal growth. I’m seriously considering putting a cap on how many people I do this with at any one time, because there’s only so many spaces I have available every week. The booking load is in a nice space at the moment: only about two weeks in advance. I’m working on setting up some booking-rules so that Skype and distant clients are given priority, because I’m still very determined to get a significant portion of my business on-line.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAMy husband and I have just become the proud owners of a beautiful 100 acres of land in a little place in northern NSW called Nymboida, and we are hoping to transition into a lifestyle where we come and go every six months, between Darwin and Nymboida. My local Darwin clients who get their heads around the value of distant work will still be able to work with me while I’m away, and I’m putting some hard yakka into streamlining some efficient on-line products and services to make this even easier.

Anyway, I think that’s enough yabbering from me for one week! I’ll write with another update soon.

Blessings,

Om

Boundaries Aura Spray

img_1012I recently created a special blend for the students in the last workshop I ran, on Boundaries, and I promised them I’d write something for them about the ingredients, so here it is!

Blessings!

Om


Boundaries Blue

boundaries-blueBoundaries Blue is the colour I find in people’s auras when their boundaries are strong and healthy. This colour provides a smooth edge to the aura that doesn’t allow things, people or situations in the world around us to ‘hook in’ to our aura.

Using the Boundaries Blue aura colour essence helps us to keep our personal space clear and effectively assert (communicate) our boundaries to others so they know where they stand with us.

This colour gives us a ‘water off a ducks back’ approach to what might normally ruffle our feathers!


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I can’t work out where my fringed violet photos are, so I’m showing you some images from a fantastic local resource I often use to help me identify flowers. Please click here to access.

If you brush up against a fringed violet accidentally and then look away for a few second, when you bring your attention back to the flower you may be hard-pressed to find it again. A disturbed fringe violet, with its sensitive fringe feeling into the world around it, will close itself up quite quickly, and pretend to be one of the surrounding grasses. This remedy is excellent for helping your boundaries learn discernment and flexibility, so we know when (and how much) to be open or closed, in each unique situation. I do think there is an element of tie-cutting this flower provides as well: while three petals are fringed, the other three are compact and long, like the swords we might use to cut the ties that bind us.


Desert Rose

2012-06-07 13.42.42.jpgDesert Rose is a centralian flower essence. She says:

I’m a lot tougher than I look, and I can protect you from the demands that other place on you and the demands you place on yourself. Let go of these silly ideas that you are only here to serve others. Reconnect with yourself. Think of yourself as a sacred site and declare your territory sacrosanct. Have self respect and self love. Care for yourself. Care for your body.


Phaleria

phalaria image_0001Phaleria is an amazing Arnhem land flower. I’ve adding this to the blend because having healthy boundaries is also about knowing when to shed your old skin because you’ve outgrown it. Comfort zones can lead to stagnation after all!

Phaleria reminds us we have choices, and we aren’t trapped. It also helps us emerge from our comfort zones. Like a caterpillar coming out of a cocoon, we often discover we have hidden wings that give us freedom when we overcome old limiting thoughts, beliefs and identities.


Black Kyanite

kyaniteBlack Kyanite is protective for the aura and helps to repair rips, holes and tears in the fabric of our aura boundaries. It also helps us to be assertive and to speak our truth. Within the aura itself, it reconnects areas that may have become disconnected by unhealthy defensive responses that armour and harden the aura and it helps dissolve hard walls inside our hearts that occur when we stop listening to our inner voice and our feelings. Black kyanite erects protective shields over the ear chakras that filter out negative energy and dampen the effects of auditory over-stimulation.


Kunzite

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAKunzite is a protective crystal. It provides protection by raising our frequency, dispelling negativity and shielding our aura from unwanted energies. It reminds us to align ourselves with what nourishes us, and to let go of the rest.

 

 

Therapeutic Storytelling

I specialize in storytelling. My clients tell me stories about who they are and the life they are leading; stories about health, life, courage, confusion and so much more. They cast themselves in a specific role that reflects and shapes their psyche and their story about themselves.

Listening to a person’s story tells me about their hopes, their fears, their insecurities and their strengths. And hidden in amongst the folds of every story told are little whispers of wisdom that grow wings with which to fly when they are unearthed from our depths and the light of positive attention is shone upon them. The same light can make fears and insecurities dissolve as though they were merely the remnants of a bad dream shaken off with the dawning of new realisations and insight.

In clinic, I use many different story-telling techniques to bring my clients face to face with their own stories. The telling of past live stories and fairy-tales for example, can re-present our stories to us in exaggerated,  metaphor-rich glory; stage-dressed in ribbons and tatters, delivered dramatically or humourously, with a classic plot line and characters who mirror us back to ourselves. Why do we tell the stories we tell, in the way that we tell them, and why do we keep repeating the same experience over and over again, attracting, or being attracted to, the same catalysts, characters and plot lines?

I love helping people find new ways to tell old stories: flipping through alternative possibilities and choices in perspective can make us feel as though we discovering and having the courage to wander down half hidden side-streets that lead to new delights and new life….  instead of walking the same tired old paths over and over again.

Who could you become? What do you aspire to? What kind of person would you like to be? These are the questions we are exploring when fleshing out the character of a spirit guide, another form of story-telling I love to use in clinic. You could think of your spirit guides as being your higher self playing dress-up, because in the broader scheme and things, we are all connected as one anyway; connected by universal story-lines (plot lines) and archetypal lessons.

 

Four-Directions Medicine-Wheel Spell

screen-shot-2016-09-29-at-12-34-37-amI’m having a happy moment..

…not just because my daughter is standing beside me quoting Missy Higgins and linking it in with her own inspired writing and a discussion that has been unfolding between us about the Idealistic Pink aura colour….

…not just because we all went to see the Embrace documentary created by Taryn and it makes my heart so happy to see and hear beautiful women talking about liberating themselves from the trappings of cultural ‘rules’ about beauty and image…

…I’m happy because I’ve created the third part of my four-direction medicine-wheel spell, under the guidance of my new spirit guide, a herbal wiccan teacher.

Here’s a little preview:

A Medicine Wheel Spell : Boundary Strengthening for Empaths

In your magic spell kit you should have an Aura Spray and a Medicine Bundle designed to help empaths (clairsentients) clear their space and restore and strengthen their boundaries.

Your aura is you, in energy form. The aura of an empath has fuzzy or blurry boundary edges, making it less clearly defined where they end and they rest of the world begins. Their aura can easily flow into and merge with (empathise with) the world around them. They are often very caring people who make excellent healers and counselors. The empathic aura instinctively empathises with the pain of others and transmutes or releases it on the other person’s behalf.

When an empath becomes unbalanced, the aura boundaries that usually define and protect them from the outer world (however vaguely!) collapse altogether and the outside world comes flooding in. They lose their sense of self and their personal space, and it can feel as though everything is in their face and getting under their skin. They become infected by the emotions and stresses of others and start to feel responsible for everything and everyone. This congests and stresses their aura, resulting in physical illness and a loss of emotional stability and calm.

This spell is a four-directions medicine-wheel spell, taught to Omanisa by one of her spirit guides and designed for those living in the southern hemisphere. It consists of four ceremonies supported by an aura spray containing colour, gem and flower essences that clear the aura and strengthen boundaries. The spell is most powerful when it can be done within a 24-hour period, but for those with busy lives it’s fine to stretch the ceremonies out over a period of weeks or months.

Each ceremony requires at least 30 minutes of your time. The first ceremony is done when the sun sets. The second is done at night-time before bed. The third is done with the dawning of the sun. The fourth at midday. Before doing each ceremony, read through it to familiarize yourself with both the process and the tools that will be needed.

Om is an Australian naturopath, spiritual healer, rainbow shaman, and colour therapist. 

New spirit guide, new clinic space

Anyone who has visited the clinic recently will have noticed the latest redesign with the clinic space. One of my children has moved out and I simply couldn’t resist giving him our lounge, which then meant I needed to steal the lounge setting from the clinic. Which, in a way, quite suited my on-going need for transformation.

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I had a new spirit guide show up earlier this year. She blew in like Mary Poppins, setting up her space in my inner world, complete with a gorgeous desk and dried herbs hanging all in a row above her head. I knew I had seen this image before in one of the tarot decks that do the rounds between my mother, my sister and I. I absolutely love this deck. It really speaks to my soul because it honours many cultures from around the world.

Jyoti and David McKie are an English couple who immigrated to western Australia during the process of writing this book. The project itself was primarily Jyoti’s but it could not really have been done without David’s support, and this is often exactly how I feel about my husband and his role in my life. Jyoti is a woman after my own heart: not only has she written the text (with support from David), she is the artist behind the art in these cards. “The earth heals us,” says Jyoti, and her tarot features earth-based spiritual traditions from all around the world.

Have a look at the following cards and you will see what I mean: so many different cultures are represented, and they are cultures I have a spiritual connection with. My spiritual training has come from Aboriginal, Hawaiian, American Indian, Asian, African, Celtic, Egyptian, European and so many more cultures.

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This is the Healing Earth deck, most likely out of print now…I just had a search. Here’s a link!

And the image from this deck that I saw when my new spirit guide came to me was the 9 of Pipes, “the return of magical healing”; the image of a wise, gypsy woman, sitting with her tarot cards “ready to give council.” Always above her I see four bunches of dried herbs and every time I visit her the herbs are different. She teaches me about the spirit uses of these herbs, and in healing sessions I rub these herbs on my hands, and rub them through the aura. Today for example, I covered my hands in a mixture of horsetail herb and indigo flower essence and was guided to draw a variation on a rune symbol over my client’s shoulder. The effect was dramatic: both my client and I felt the shift.

In between clients I’m taking a break from book editing and working on the spell I started creating a few months ago. My new spirit guide is “herbal wicca” and she is teaching me the fine art of creating 4-direction medicine-wheel ceremonies. Here is the image I see when I visit my guide, an image borrowed by my psyche from Jyoti’s beautiful “Healing Earth” tarot artwork along with the Medicine Wheel card, to honour the teachings from this new guide:

 

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So… when I gave my son my lounge I created space to embody the image I  was seeing in my imagination, bringing it to life in my life:

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With the wall of liquid herbs to the left of me, all this scene really needs is some dried herbs hanging above me, but I’ll settle for the lead-light crystals hanging in front of the window over the sink.

While we are playing with Jyoti’s Cards, these are some of my favourites:

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Soul Loss, Retrieval, Soul Return : Aura Card Demo

“Soul Retrieval” is the reclaiming of stolen/forgotten/repressed energies or parts of ourselves that were lost during, or as a result of, past trauma (Soul Loss). Soul Retrieval is like marching into your past, standing up to your demons and saying “I’ll have that part of myself back, thank you very much!”

“Soul Return” is the process of giving back crappy stuff that has been projected onto you, or that you have taken onto yourself, during past trauma. In other words, it’s about giving back stuff that isn’t yours, and never was. There is absolutely no point carrying and attempting to own or process ‘stuff’ that isn’t yours; it’s always best to give it back and let the original owner take care of it. Continue reading