The Two Wolves

Once upon a time, or so the Cherokee legend goes, a young Indian boy received a beautiful drum as a gift. When his best friend saw it, he asked if he could play with it, but the boy felt torn. He didn’t want to share his new present, so he angrily told his friend, “No!”

His friend ran away, and the boy sat down on a rock by the stream to contemplate his dilemma. He hated the fact that he had hurt his friend’s feelings, but the drum was too precious to share. In his quandary, he went to his grandfather for advice.

The elder listened quietly and then replied. “I often feel as though there are two wolves fighting inside me. One is mean and greedy and full or arrogance and pride, but the other is peaceful and generous. All the time they are struggling, and you, my boy, have those same two wolves inside you.”

“Which one will win?”, asked the boy.

The elder smiled and said “The one you feed.”

This story, told in How God changes your Brain, by Newburg and Waldman (neurotheology), is a wonderful example of the power of therapeutic story-telling. Stories can help us see ourselves more clearly. They give us visual metaphors to describe intangible feelings inside us, along with new strategies for managing our challenges. Continue reading “The Two Wolves”

Anger – Neuroscience and the Aura

I love exploring emotions from both a neurological perspective and a philosophical one. Here’s some fantastic writing from Newberg and Waldman (How God Changes your Brain), about anger:

“Anger makes people indiscriminately punitive, blameful, pessimistic and unilaterally careless in their logic and reasoning skills. Furthermore, anger encourages your brain to defend your beliefs- be they right or wrong- and when this happens, you’ll be more likely to feel prejudice towards others. You’ll inaccurately perceive anger in other people’s faces, and this will increase your own distrust and fear. It’s an insidious process that feeds on itself, and it can influence your behaviour for very long periods of time, Eventually, it will even damage important structures in our brain.

Nor is it good for your heart. Regardless of your age, gender or ethnicity – anger, cynicism, hostility, and defensiveness will increase your risk of cardiovascular disease and cerebrovascular problems. What makes anger particularly dangerous is that it blinds you to the fact that you are even angry; thus it gives you a false sense of certainty, confidence and optimism,”

This inspires so many thoughts for me!

The last point in particular, about anger making us feel certain, confident and optimistic might sound strange, but I have noticed that people use anger to protect themselves from depression, sadness and feelings of disempowerment. As a therapist, I’m often working towards helping people lift up their anger and take a look underneath, because it’s usually an offensive defence used to shield feelings of vulnerability.  Continue reading “Anger – Neuroscience and the Aura”

Blame/Stuck – a muddy orange-brown aura frequency

This blog is for anyone with a deck of my Aura Cards. Please contact me to enquire about purchasing. Colour Perception: The colour of Blame is a muddy, congested, brown tinged Orange, with glinting hints of angry red streaks. It provides a sick, groaning, heavy feeling to the body, with deeper feelings of pain and a sense of being forsaken. Energetically, this is one of … Continue reading Blame/Stuck – a muddy orange-brown aura frequency

The Blame Aura : muddy brown and red streaked orange

This colour appears in the aura when we habitually either take or too much responsibility or don’t take any at all. In the first instance we are blaming ourselves or taking all the blame. This can take many forms: *Some will be dignified, proud and very much at the mercy of their own high standards. These people tend to have royal blue, dark green colours and salmon … Continue reading The Blame Aura : muddy brown and red streaked orange

Lavender and the Watchful Blue Aura

photo-31Spirit keeps telling me to take Lavender, these past few days, bringing it into my life and to my attention in various sneaky ways. First it arrived via my current obsession with edible flower petals, and I found myself prickling it over my food. Now It’s the card I keep pulling from my home-made herbal deck. I have Lavender tincture preserved in pears, which is lovely and soft compared to the alcohol version.

Agitated Depression

I can’t say this is an issue for me at the moment but it is for many people I am energetically supporting. I love herbs that calm anxiety while also treating depression, because the two so often go hand in hand. Lavender treats dizziness and insomnia, and stops us from from getting caught up in obsessive thoughts.

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