The power of words as a therapeutic device

Self-talk

internal dialogue

mantra

sentence

button-pusher

litany

statement of intent

declaration of power

transformational language

self-hypnosis

Conversations with spirit guides

These are the terms I use to describe the various word-based therapeutic tools I teach my clients how to use during consults. The one word I don’t use is ‘affirmation’. If I use the word affirmation, I lose the client’s attention. This word sparks a cascade of associations that have nothing to do with the exercise at hand. Everyone is an expert on affirmations; we have all read material about affirmations, we have all used them and most of us have favourite techniques and have been indoctrinated by a set of ‘affirmation rules’. So to keep people focused on the job at hand, I deliberately use terms other than affirmation to describe what we are doing.

SELF TALK

Your self-talk is the sway you speak to yourself in the privacy of your own mind. A lot of the time, our self talk is habitual, conditioned, and often quite unconscious, or lacking in mindfulness.

During consultations, I often ask my clients to use their imagination to recreate stressful events and observe their self talk. For example, a client might come to me asking for help to stop yelling at her children. To help her with this, I might ask her to think back to the last time she yelled at her children. In particularly, I want her to examine the time leading up to this event. Not only am I asking her to note specific stress triggers, muscle tension, and breathing patterns, I also want her to notice what her self-talk is like leading up to the yelling episode. Becoming aware of our self-talk helps us understand the connection between thoughts, emotions and behaviours. From here we can deliberately rewire ourselves by changing our self-talk; we can ask ourselves how we would prefer to respond to specific stress triggers and what kind of self-talk would help us accomplish this.

INTERNAL DIALOGUE

An expansion of self-talk is internal dialogue, where we become aware of a conversation between two aspects of self. I use this technique when my clients are struggling with internal conflict. The conflict can often diffuse when we make it more conscious and seek to understand the values and motivations driving each voice. We are complex beings, and many of us struggle with mixed feelings and conflicting values. As with self-talk, much of this internal conflict can lie just below our conscious awareness. Some of my clients are gifted repressive copers who are very good at blocking this internal conflict off from their conscious minds. The benefit might be less conscious stress and worry, with greater composure, but the downside is that much of this conflict and tension will then express itself via the physical body. Helping a client become more consciously aware of their internal conflict can relieve the physical symptoms of stress.

Quite often, I will act out the two voices that are at war within a client so they can see them more clearly. I try to use a little humour to lighten the intensity, often including a little self-depreciating humour so that they know they aren’t alone or being judged: we all struggle with these internal conflicts! At heart, the conflict is between yin and yang- for example, over 50% of the internal conflicts I see in people are essentially a battle between responsibility and freedom. As with all internal conflicts, the answer lies not in choosing one voice over the other, but in mediating between the two to find a more balanced perspective. We swing back and forth between each voice, with first one then the other gaining the upper hand, and while this might make us feel like a yoyo with a split personality and a headache to boot, this is natures way of helping us find the middle path. My job is to speed the process up, smooth it out and make the ride a little easier for the client by teaching them mindfulness, detachment and mediation skills.

MANTRA

A mantra is a sentence we repeat over and over again, in a meditative way. I teach my clients to repeat a mantra silently in their own mind on the inhalation, and to release any other thoughts on the exhalation. A mantra can be a useful way to harness and practise positive self-talk, while also blocking out negative self-talk. A mantra can be a single word, a series of words, or a sentence. For example, I will sometimes link mantra work to a feeling state and a colour. We can do this now:

*Think about an unpleasant feeling you have regularly. Find three words to describe how this feels. If you could paint me a picture of your aura to show me how this feels, what colour would you aura be?

*Now think about how you would rather feel. Find three words to describe this. Repeat these words on every inhalation while you focus on invoking the feeling. If this feeling was a colour, what colour would it be?

*Now repeat the positive words to yourself on the inhalation, imagine you are surrounded by this beautiful colour, and inhale it as you repeat the mantra, imagining you are feeling yourself with this colour, this feeling.

*If you want to, you can also release the unpleasant colour (blowing it away) on the exhalation.

SENTENCE

Sometimes I refer to mantra sentences, simply as sentences! On the odd occasion I will ask a client to repeat a sentence out loud, so we can both hear their voice. Vocal tone says a lot- you can often tell how much you really believe something by noticing how easy or not it is to say it out loud. When a person doesn’t believe what they are saying, or the sentence triggers emotion for them, you will hear catches in their voice, they might stumble or mispronounce words, or simply lack conviction in their tone.

BUTTON PUSHER

The sentences I ask clients to use during healing often function as button pushers. In effect, we are ‘testing’ the sentences to see how well they hold or take in the aura; how well the ‘sit’ with a person. For me as the healer, specific sentences can act as powerful button pressers that bring wounds up to the surface so I can see them clearly. I very carefully watch the aura while a client uses a sentence, observing their reactions and noticing the patterns that surface. A really good button presser sentence will provoke emotion in the client. for example, being asked to say to yourself “I am deeply loved and supported”, when you feel anything but, can bring grief and anger to the surface of the aura so they can be faced, dealt with a released. It’s often at this point I will switch gears and start teaching my client how to release emotional congestion from the body/aura in a safe way. It’s also an opportunity for me to help the client build greater mindful self-awareness by drawing their attention to the body sensations associated with or caused by the emotions they are experiencing. “Aha!” they say to themselves, suddenly realising that their chronic jaw tension is linked to frustration, or that their shallow breathing is linked with fear or grief.

LITANY

My mum will often string a series of sentence mantras together to create a what she calls a litany, and she repeats this to herself when she goes walking, with a lovely sense of rhythm being created by the steps and the words combined. Often her litany has a musical or lyrical quality to it, and it’s always uplifting, positive and empowering.

STATEMENT OF INTENT

To some extent, mum’s litany is a statement of intent. She is letting her energy field, her subconscious, her body and spirit, know what she wants and how she wants to feel. She is exercising her will, or her capacity ti invoke a specific state, with intent.

This is another skill I teach my clients, especially my healing students.  Intent is the active side of psychic ability, with perception being the passive. We use psychic perception (intuition) to scan for and gather information. We active psychic intent to move, direct and instruct energy. For example, you might use psychic perception to check to see if you are grounded or not. You could do this by asking yourself “Am I grounded?” and then waiting quietly for an answer, which might come as a feeling, words/thoughts or a mental image. If you sensed that you weren’t grounded, you would then switch from passive information gathering mode to active intent mode. To intend grounding, you might picture an image of a mountain, a rock or a tree with its roots in the ground. You might remember what it felt like last time you felt very grounded, or imagine what it would feel like if you WERE grounded. And you might use statements of intent such as ‘I am grounded”.

DECLARATION OF POWER

“I am grounded” could also be thought of as a declaration of power. I AM statements are powerful because they remind us that we can choose; that we are in charge of our own state. There is a lot we don’t have control over in life, but even in the midst of turmoil and chaos, we can make choices about our own personal state. This isn’t always easy to do, but it makes us feel very empowered when we do actually pull it off.

TRANSFORMATIONAL LANGUAGE

This is all about making conscious choices regarding our self-talk style and the way we verbally express ourselves. Here are some examples:

*Going on a ‘no apology’ diet can be very powerful for people who are habitually obsequious and overly apologetic. In this instance, they ban themselves from saying any form of ‘sorry’ for a week. This helps them become more aware of how compulsive and insidious their habit is, while also forcing them to discover new, more empowering ways to express themselves.

*Going on a ‘freedom/choices’ binge for a week. With this exercise, the client bans themselves from using words like ‘should, ought to, must, have to, should have’ etc. Instead, they focus on using phrases like “I can, I could, I choose to, I chose to, I could if I wanted to, I could have” etc- This wording reminds them that they are free, and is useful for busting through guilt, regret and blame patterns of thinking.

*Replacing ‘I, me, mine” language with “Our, us, we” language, if you tend to be too independent.

SELF HYPNOSIS

All of the tools described above could be thought of as self-hypnosis tools designed to help you recondition your subconscious mind. At first they might seem stilted, unnatural  or forced, but with practise, these new ways of thinking, feeling and expressing can become second nature.

CONVERSATIONS WITH SPIRIT GUIDES

The more we improve the quality of our self-talk, the more likely we are to access inspiring, loving, quality exchanges with our spirit guides. And the more we practice talking with our spirit guides, the more beautiful, uplifting and refined our self-talk has the capacity to become. Talking with spirit guides is an excellent way to improve the quality of your self-talk because spirit guides always speak to us in a respectful, healthy manner. If you hear anything less from a spirit guide, it isn’t a spirit guide, it’s your wounded inner child masquerading as spirit. If this happens, switch gears and become the healer/counsellor/parent by setting boundaries with love, or accept that you aren’t in the right frame of mind for quality spirit work: go do something else for a while- something grounding and nourishing and come back again when you are in a better mood.

So much of managing your own mind-body state is about nipping the unhelpful behaviours in the bud and practising healthier alternatives.

Blessed Be

Om

Repairing and Restringing energy lines

The structural energy field is made up of a network of cross-hatched threads or lines that resemble a fishing net, but on individual layers, you will tend to only perceive some of the energy lines rather than all of the energy lines. Personally, I am most experienced in working with vertical energy lines. I tend to think of the horizontal line-work as being one big spiral that coils around the body and I work with this part of the energy field less frequently and in a completely different way.

 

The structural energy field itself has varying layers or levels and I’m sure I only have a vague insight into this anatomy. I think of there being the main external shell that sits about an inch above the body but I also ‘see’ energy lines forming the walls of internal structures such as organs and blood vessels. You could most liken all of these lines to muscles in the physical body but that’s only a loose association. Energy lines are like muscles in the energy field because they provide tone, support and structure to the energy field.
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The aura and its chakras

The Human Energy Field or ‘Aura’

The aura is an energy field that surrounds living things. It is our life force. It can also been called the human energy field. Shaped like an egg or oval of light that surrounds the whole body, it can look like a heat haze shimmering with light and energy. It has every colour imaginable including those that are beyond the visible spectrum.

You may have seen the aura already, as a light around a person’s head or you may have felt the aura by sensing someone’s mood. You can think of it as an atmosphere around the human body- just as the planet earth has an atmosphere. The aura is generally recognised as having seven layers. Most psychics only see the first three- those closest to the physical body. The outer auric layers are concerned with the soul and spirit whereas the inner auric layers relate to mind, emotions and health.

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Scanning the aura with your hands and clairsentience

 Preparation

 

For this exercise, you will need a volunteer. Its wonderful if you can find a friend who is learning healing too, so you can practice together. If not, call on open-minded friends, family and animal friends.

 

To begin with, please don’t worry about which auric sheath you are scanning. Later, you can develop your own ideas about what sheath is where and what relevance it has to you personally as a healer. My own classifications are very loose, but other healers develop very sophisticated sheath systems that work very effectively for them. For now, lets get you used to interacting with the sheaths.

 

Begin by establishing your personal healing space and state. Remember to centre yourself, at the very least. For some of you, it will help to get your hands ‘switched on’ before you attempt scanning. You can do this by doing some hands-on healing until you feel your hand chakras activate (warmth/movement/tingling) on palms of hands, and a subtle change in the way you feel. For me, it feels like my mind and body have filled with warm, liquid light or sunlight. If you don’t get any sensations, just pretend or imagine what it would feel like if you did.

 

Cloud hands’

 

You can do this exercise with the volunteer standing, sitting or laying down. Simply begin by holding the palms of your hands open, fingers together or only slightly spread, with the flat of the palm facing the volunteer, but at a distance of about one meter.

 

Slowly, slowly, bring your hands in and feel for any resistance or difference in pressure under your hands. Its almost like looking for an invisible cloud under your hands. It can feel a bit like what happens when you hold two opposing magnets facing one another and try to move them towards each other; a subtle resistance or pushing back against your hand. The sensation is often quite faint, especially when you are first learning, so concentrate and assume any slight difference in air pressure is what you are looking for. It might take a few attempts before you are able to perceive an auric layer, and you may find more than one in the one meter zone. You can of course, experiment by starting further out.

 

Scanning

 

Once you have found an auric layer, begin to slowly run your hands over the surface of it as though it were someones skin and you were doing a very, very slow and gentle massage. You might move your hands in one direction, slowly back and forth over the same area, or in a circular motion that gradually moves in one direction. As you are doing this, pay attention to the sensations you feel on the palms of your hands.

 

Just as with hands on healing, some areas will stimulate your hand chakras more than others, creating different sensations in your hands, such as tingling and warmth. You can stop moving in these areas and simply allow energy to channel into the sheath in this position until you intuitively feel its time to start moving again.

 

You can also use what you feel beneath your hands to create a picture for you; a picture respresenting the condition of the auric sheath. For example, some areas may seem to dip or pull in closer to the physical body, whereas other area may seem to balloon out, away from the physical body. These mountains and valleys in the landscape of the auric sheath are showing you where problems are. Ideally, the skeath should be of an even tone all the way around the body, or in other words, it should ideally all be the same distance from the body.

 

The surface under your hands can also feel quite textural. For example, some areas might seem soft and fluffy, whereas others seem hard and metallic. Some areas might seem choppy and unsettled like the ocean before a storm, whereas other areas by comparison, feel calm and smooth like the surface of a still lake.

 

Another ‘picture’ can be created for you by the different temperature sensations you feel. For some people, warmth is translated as congestion and coldness is translated as emptiness. It doesn’t really matter how you interpret what you feel, so long as the interpretations are based upon, or backed up by, your own personal observations during scanning and healing.

 

Auric Massage

 

Once you have found a sheath and begun to feel its surface, you can begin to move the energy around with your hands to get a more consistent temperature, consistency and texture throughout the entire surface of the sheath.

 

For example, you can mold the valleys and mountains into each other, spreading the energy around a little more evenly so that it isn’t piling up in some places and lacking in others. This is a bit like playing with clay or doing a massage (the mountains are like tight muscles that need to be kneaded!).

 

You can also disperse the warmth outwards so that it isn’t so concentrated in certain areas, pushing warmth into cool areas to warm them up and bring more life into them. Alternatively, if it’s the heat that seems excessive, you could cool it down a bit by massaging adjacent cooler areas into the warm areas.

 

The general idea with this is to mix, soothe, smooth and spread, just as you would in a massage. Even gentle stroking over the sheath can help it to relax and rebalance itself.

Chakra Lobes and the energy field

When working as a psychic healer, you are constantly making discoveries about the anatomy and physiology of the energy field. A few years ago I discovered that chakras have lobes. Each lobe is like a little mini-chakra, contained within the wholeness of the main chakra. Chakras contain many lobes. As far as I can tell, the energy field is a creative zone, constantly shaping and reforming itself in response to the personality of the client and the environment around it, so I wouldn’t say there are necessarily set numbers of lobes in each chakra.

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My nature spirit teachers – part 1

On a recent trip through central Australia, my country, my place of birth, spirit spoke to me. We travelled 6000 km and travelled through 15 communities but there was only one place that reached out and said hello. I was curious as to why it was that particular place that spoke to me, so when I got home, I reached out and reconnected. I remembered that the voice had come from the mountain. I wasn’t sure if it was the mountain itself, a cave, or some flowers on the other side, but now as I write this, I hear a voice telling me it was ‘the spirit of the land’. I asked the voice why this place connected with me:

“Because this is your place. It’s the best place for you, where you resonate with the land and the female earth energy. It’s the best place for you now, not always, but now. Come visit and we will talk with you, teach you. We know you and have worked with you before. Some places in Australia will talk to you because they recognise you. You’ve been allowed access to some layers/levels of knowledge-wisdom because of who you are and your history.”

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Aura Card Guidebook

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Omanisa is a Naturopath, spiritual counsellor and healer who specialises in reading and healing the aura. To find out more about Omanisa and her work, check out her website.

The Art of Holding in Healing

Today during a healing class, one of my students was the healer in the second healing for the day. In some ways this can be challenging, because the first healer and healing sets a mood or a standard, and the instinct most of us have is to match that mood or standard, when in reality, a different client usually requires a completely different approach. The first healing during class today was dynamic. The healer talked us through the healing and the imagery was beautiful. There was a pace and a flow, almost like the feeling you get when a person ‘doesn’t skip a beat’.

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The rule of three- training via repetition

I was talking to a friend today about her desire to become a spiritual healer. She was having trouble finding a teacher in her part of the world that she felt comfortable with, so I reminded her of the value of ‘inner teachers’; spirit guides and invisible friends who take us under their wing and guide our training. It is useful as a spiritual student to have helpers in both our inner and outer worlds.

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